The Gothic Marriage ceremony of My Desires

Hey, stunning creatures! I’ve bought some incredible information to share. Final weekend, I had the gothic wedding ceremony of my desires and married my companion Dave. I’ve been holding out on you a bit of bit as a result of he and I bought engaged on Valentine’s Day, 2022. As a result of on-line harassment and stalking I’ve been coping with, I didn’t really feel comfy sharing this till now. 

Dave and I knew we didn’t desire a conventional wedding ceremony that held little which means to us. As an alternative, we determined to plan a gothic wedding ceremony that may be as distinctive and memorable as we’re. Dave and I labored collectively on our listing of necessities. He wished the marriage to be below the moonlight, and I wished it open air. I researched upcoming full moons and steered the Pink Moon because it was on a Saturday night and excellent for New Beginnings. I reached out to Raprager Household Farms to see if that they had an appropriate outside area and determined upon their Butterfly Backyard.

I don’t have our official photographs again from the photographer but, so please take pleasure in these candid pictures by my family and friends till then.

Tips on how to Plan the Marriage ceremony of Your Desires

Dave and Cordelia waiting to recite their wedding vows

Our most important aim was to have a marriage that was significant to us and to not spend an unlimited amount of cash on the occasion. We wished a marriage with lower than 50 company, an outside venue due to the continued world pandemic, and a wonderful moonlit night time. Neither of us discovered an extended ceremony interesting, so we requested our officiant to make it brief, candy, and to the purpose. Each of us wished beautiful outfits we’d put on once more. I wanted to get good photographs of everybody who attended, so I knew we would want to arrange a inexperienced display space.

While you’re engaged on planning the marriage of your desires, whether or not you may have a modest funds or a limiteless one, I extremely advocate specializing in what’s necessary to you and creating your distinctive wedding ceremony expertise round that. Please don’t follow traditions except they’ve which means to you. We knew that for us to have the gothic wedding ceremony of our desires it meant we wanted good music, scrumptious desserts, fashionable outfits, and a brief ceremony. From my earlier wedding ceremony expertise, I knew that bodily invites weren’t necessary to me. We didn’t desire a present registry as a result of we’re already a longtime family. And I’m not huge on wedding ceremony favors, so we skipped them and lots of different wedding ceremony traditions.

I’m so grateful to all of my family and friends who helped us with our wedding ceremony. Particular due to Cary, Carlye, Mickey, Stacia, Gabe, Sera, Chris, Jessie, Tim, Nicola, Cliff, and Nan for all of the coordination on the occasion day.

Our Gothic Marriage ceremony Theme

Our wedding ceremony theme was Unseelie Faerie Queen marries her King below the complete moonlight within the Butterfly Backyard. Butterflies are an emblem of change, rebirth, hope, and transformation. The Pink Moon signifies new beginnings, a promising begin for our marriage!


As a result of we deliberate our wedding ceremony with a modest funds, I created a {custom} electronic mail with a Pink Moon and palm bushes and despatched out e-invitations to our company. I manually stored observe of RSVPs that we acquired in a spreadsheet.

The Venue

Cordelia and Dave's wedding sign at Rapragar Family Farms

We selected Rapragar Household Farms for our wedding ceremony venue for a number of causes. Rapragar Household Farms is a beautiful place within the Tampa space. They’ve a number of totally different sections of their property which are appropriate to host a marriage, each indoor and outside. We even had a backup location on the property in case of inclement climate, although our climate was close to excellent.

Rapragar Household Farms was simple to work with. They helped deal with many little particulars, like tablecloths, speaker programs, and lights. They’d a most well-liked photographer to work with as properly.

Reserving the marriage at Rapragar Household Farms saved us a variety of stress and headache, and it didn’t break the financial institution. We paid a complete of $1580 for the venue, and this included seating and tables for as much as 50 company, meals tables, coolers and ice, a photographer, and clean-up. We have been on the venue from roughly 7:45 pm till 11 pm.

Inexperienced Display

We arrange a inexperienced display on a backdrop stand to take group pictures with everybody who attended. I shall be taking these photographs, placing enjoyable and thrilling backgrounds behind everybody, after which getting them printed for a non-public wedding ceremony souvenir e book. I really feel like this can be a extra trendy tackle the marriage visitor e book, and it’s extra significant for us.

Micro-Marriage ceremony

Our wedding ceremony was a micro-wedding as a result of we had 39 company whole, as some people couldn’t make it. We wished to maintain it very small for a number of causes, however primarily so it might be an intimate occasion and never break the financial institution. Everybody who attended our wedding ceremony was vaccinated in opposition to Covid.

Two of my pals traveled very far for my wedding ceremony! One got here from New Zealand and the opposite from Scotland. I’m grateful to all my family and friends who may attend. I do know some have been unable to due to well being problems, which I perceive. I’m unhappy that I couldn’t invite everybody in my buddy circles, however I additionally didn’t need to go into debt for this occasion.

Officiant and Witnesses

Witnesses signing the wedding paperwork
From left to proper – Dave, Caryle, Cary, me, Mickey, Dustin

We selected three of our closest pals to be the officiant of the marriage and our witnesses. Cary did an incredible job with our wedding ceremony ceremony. Carlye and Mickey witnessed our marriage for us.

Pre-Ceremony Playlist

I wished the pre-ceremony playlist to be songs we beloved. Dave walked down the aisle to I Put a Spell on You, and I walked down the aisle to Form of You. We picked these songs out collectively due to the lyrics and their meanings for us. You may hearken to all the pre-ceremony playlist right here, adopted by the unique variations of those songs with lyrics.

  1. Nonetheless Alive (Portal) – Vitamin String Quartet
  2. Like a Prayer (Madonna) – Vitamin String Quartet
  3. Depraved Recreation (Chris Isaak) – Vitamin String Quartet
  4. Montero (Name me by your Identify)(Lil Nas X) – Vitamin String Quartet
  5. Wrecking Ball (Miley Cyrus) – Midnite String Quartet
  6. Carry Me to Life (Evanescence) – Vitamin String Quartet
  7. Stripped (Depeche Mode) – Cairn String Quartet
  8. I Put a Spell on You (Screamin’ Jay Hawkins) – L’Orchestra Cinematique
  9. Form of You (Ed Sheeran) – Vitamin String Quartet

Publish-Ceremony Playlist

Dave and I’ve been obsessive about CamelPhat and ARTBAT since Mickey launched us to their music. We pay attention to those artists every day after we’re understanding, they usually make us completely satisfied. You may hearken to the post-ceremony playlist right here.

  1. Cola– CamelPhat & Elderbrook
  2. Sand in Your Footwear – ARTBAT & Dino Lenny
  3. Fading – ARTBAT & Dino Lenny
  4. Tabu – ARTBAT
  5. Hypercolor (ARTBAT Remix) – CamelPhat, Yannis
  6. You’re So Excessive – Eli & Fur
  7. Dance with My Ghost (Visualiser) that includes Elderbrook – CamelPhat
  8. Lose My Thoughts (ARTBAT Rave Combine) – Pongo
  9. Light – Zhu
  10. Spektrum that includes Ali Love – CamelPhat
  11. Prometheus – ARTBAT
  12. Bondinho Pao de Acucar in Rio de Janeiro for Cercle – ARTBAT

Marriage ceremony Meals & Drink

Glow-in-the-dark cupcake stands

I really like Happiness 101 Bakery, a neighborhood indie bakery specializing in gluten-free and dairy-free desserts and I rent them all year long for occasions. We requested Andrea, the proprietor, to make cupcakes and cake pops for our wedding ceremony, and she or he didn’t disappoint! Certainly one of our pals steered utilizing Liquid Dying Glowing Water, and we went with it! We love their message of demise to plastic and homicide your thirst. I beloved the rice paper butterfly accents on the cupcakes!

Liquid Death Sparkling Water and Cupcakes

One of many few requests that Rapragar Household Farms had was for us to not carry glassware out to the farm, as it’s a working farm, and liquid Dying Glowing Water helped to stop any glass or plastic bottle mess. We did want champagne flutes for our toasts, so I discovered some glitter champagne flutes on Amazon that suited our goal. Dave researched glowing wines to seek out the proper prosecco for the occasion.

Beautiful Gluten-free cupcakes

Beneath is what we had:

  1. Black Cherry Cake Pops (4 dozen, gluten-free)
  2. Chocolate Cupcakes with Raspberry Poke, Raspberry Filling & Cream Cheese Icing (25, gluten-free)
  3. Salted Caramel Chocolate Chip Cupcakes (24, gluten-free)
  4. Salted Caramel Cupcake (1, gluten-free)
  5. Liquid Dying Glowing Water (100 cans in a mixture of Severed Lime, Berry It Alive, & Unflavored)
  6. Borrasca Prosecco DOCG Brut Glowing Wine (Glowing wine with Bartlett pears and almond notes)
  7. 100 glitter champagne flutes
  8. 200 silver cocktail napkins
  9. Two 4-tier led cupcake stands

For all of the glowing wine, Liquid Dying glowing water, 50 connoisseur wedding ceremony cupcakes, 48 connoisseur cake pops, champagne flutes, napkins, and cake stands, we paid $896.12.

Gothic Marriage ceremony Apparel

Carlye, Cordelia, Melissa and Cary together.
From left to proper: Carlye, Cordelia, Melissa and Cary

I knew I wished a gothic couture costume that I’d put on once more, whereas Dave knew he wished a {custom} swimsuit that he would put on once more. None of these single-use outfits for us. I turned to Etsy for costume inspiration, by no means anticipating my finest buddy Carlye to supply to make my wedding ceremony apparel. 

Our wedding ceremony colours have been purple and teal blue. We requested that our company costume in purple, blue or black if potential. They regarded incredible!

Glow-in-the-Darkish Faerie Bouquet

Iridescent Galaxy Roses

My Galaxy Rose Glow in the Dark Wedding Bouquet Glowing Bouquet Wedding Dress on Cordelia

I’m allergic to pollen and never a large fan of dwell flowers. I wasn’t certain I wished a bouquet for my wedding ceremony however determined {that a} glow-in-the-dark bouquet that I may maintain after the marriage would make it significant. I bought ten led galaxy roses to create my bouquet. I’m so glad I made this resolution! I really like how the glow-in-the-dark bouquet regarded for the outside moonlight wedding ceremony.

My buddy Chris helped me rewrap the led across the galaxy roses to take advantage of how they give the impression of being. He then hot-glued the wires in place on the backside of the roses, making it simpler to bundle the flowers collectively to create my bouquet. Carlye, after all, helped me create the proper wrap to go across the bouquet for my gothic wedding ceremony.

Dave’s Customized Outfit

Dave's Custom Gothic Wedding Suit
My candy buddy Nicola took this picture of Dave. It’s when he first noticed me in my wedding ceremony outfit.

Dave knew he wished a purple and black gothic wedding ceremony swimsuit, and he turned to Fashionable Tailor to get custom-made clothes. Dave has been on a health journey over the previous a number of years as I’ve, so it’s good to have the ability to get him a swimsuit that matches his physique.

Since we favor sustainable style, Dave chosen a {custom} black Australian wool swimsuit with a mao lapel. He picked a purple {custom} shirt with black trim. He loves the shirt match and elegance a lot he plans to order a number of different shirts sooner or later in several colours.

Dave researched high-quality sneakers and located the Mogavero Ealdwine x Shoenable Collaboration boots to be his excellent wedding ceremony shoe. These sneakers are made out of black shell cordovan leather-based. We spent round $1166.25 on Dave’s ring and full wedding ceremony outfit. Dave had been saving up his Amazon credit score for some time and cashed out $800 value of factors, overlaying most of the price of his sneakers with that credit score.

My Customized Gothic Marriage ceremony Outfit

Cordelia in her Unseelie Faerie Queen Wedding Dress

Carlye knew I wished a black wedding ceremony costume with accents of my favourite colours – purple, blue, inexperienced, and teal. She created a seven-layer circle skirt petticoat below the gothic wedding ceremony costume, created from layers of crinoline, tulle, and energy mesh, in all my favourite colours. We used a lace shapewear bodysuit as the bottom for the beautiful gothic couture costume.

I’m so grateful that Carlye provided to make me the gothic wedding ceremony costume of my desires. This costume is priceless to me as a result of it’s a present! She turned me right into a literal murals with this costume!

After I initially confirmed her my inspiration photographs and described how I wished so as to add some coloration, she instantly had the mermaid cloth in thoughts to create my costume. The mermaid cloth she used shifts from purple to inexperienced to teal to blue to aqua to gold and is beautiful! I’m assured she put in round 20 hours of labor on this costume.

I bought these ballroom dance sneakers in measurement 8 with 2.5″ heels for my costume. We picked up these non-skid foot soles and connected them to my sneakers. Carlye then custom-made my dancing sneakers to match the costume completely with a mixture of gem stones in purple abdarkish blue abgentle inexperienced ab, and inexperienced volcano.

Carlye custom-made my purple tiara and choker with the gem stones for my gothic wedding ceremony outfit. I purchased this darkish blue iridescent clutch for my wedding ceremony purse because it may match my iPhone and coordinated properly with my outfit. We spent round $2563.13 on my outfit and ring, although, as I discussed, my wedding ceremony costume is priceless to me. I’d have simply spent over $3000 on my {custom} costume alone if it was not a marriage present. 

Dave’s Customized Gothic Marriage ceremony Ring

Dave and I wished distinctive {custom} wedding ceremony rings, and Dave fell in love with the Patrick Adair {custom} rings. We have been capable of order his {custom} ring rapidly, and it took lower than three months to reach.

Dave’s ring is a premium opal glowstone ring with a black ceramic band. It has meteorite and deep area blue and lavender purple opal inlays. The daytime colours are blue and purple, and the glow-in-the-dark coloration is aqua. Sure, Dave’s ring glows in the dead of night, and I’m not the one one in our household obsessive about glowing!

My Customized Marriage ceremony Ring

Dave researched jewelers in our space to seek out Eternity Jewelers. Tom, the proprietor, is a real artist, and we despatched inspiration photographs to him to get began. After seeing the primary draft, we realized we wanted to go a distinct path with our design and despatched over some artwork nouveau-inspired ring designs. Dave and I labored along with Tom to create my excellent ring for our gothic wedding ceremony.

My ring is a lab-created purple sapphire in a modified cushion lower. The platinum band has thorny rose stems going up the perimeters of the ring and a rose set with mint cubic zirconia within the middle on either side of the sapphire. The purple sapphire seems to be held in place by rose thorns. I wished the purple sapphire as a result of Dave’s birthstone is sapphire, and my favourite coloration is purple. The frosty mint gem stones signify our new surname.

I favor lab-created stones for therefore many causes! First, lab-created stones are blood-free, which means nobody dies mining them. Second, they’re extra sensible and excellent than pure gem stones. Third, they’re eco-friendly and sustainable. Fourth, lab-created stones are a lot stronger and extra sturdy than pure. Fifth, they’re very budget-friendly! The overwhelming majority of the price of my ring was from the valuable platinum steel and the talent required to design and work it. I doubt I’ll ever buy a pure stone once more now that I do know the prevalence and sustainability of lab-created stones.

My Gothic Marriage ceremony Make-up

Mickey's Makeup Kit

Mickey has a gentle touch as he applies multichromes to Cordelia's eyes

For each my non-public ceremony and massive household wedding ceremony to my ex, I did my very own make-up and hair. This time round, I’m eternally grateful that my finest buddy Mickey provided to do my hair and make-up. Mickey is aware of my face higher than I do know it. He at all times does an incredible job of constructing me really feel stunning. Mickey used a mixture of make-up from his equipment and a few of my private assortment. Beneath is what I keep in mind Mickey utilizing.

I wore my Foxblood jumpsuits all weekend lengthy, earlier than and after the marriage, as a result of they’re comfy, black, and have pockets.

Mickey applying Pat McGrath highlighter

Mattress Head Mess Behave Deep Hair Waver (to place huge mermaid waves into my waist size hair)


Cordelia's Gothic Wedding Makeup

Smashbox 24 Hour Eyeshadow Primer
Violet Voss Violet Sundown Palette (mattes)
Soften Not too long ago Deceased Palette  (mattes)
Anastasia Norvina 3 Palette (mattes)
Terra Moons Moon Tide
Fyrinnae Northwest Evening
Pat McGrath Motherships
Thrive Causemetics Liquid Lash Extensions Mascara
Kiss Rhinestone Lashes
Swarovsky Crystals on the face (utilized with lash glue)
Anastasia Dip Brows

Danessa Myricks Imaginative and prescient Cowl Cream in N01
Auric Glow Lust in Morganite 2.0
Laura Mercier Translucent Free Setting Powder
Kab Cosmetics Contour Palette (Translucent, Nude, Vanilla Bean, Uncooked, Sand, and Banana)
Pat McGrath Elegant Pores and skin Highlighting Trio
Pat McGrath Motherships
Juvia’s Place Saharan Blush Palette
KimChi Stylish Magnificence Matte Setting Spray

Black Moon Sleepwalker Liquid Lipstick
Danessa Myricks Multichrome Palette (patted on high of Sleepwalker)

Closing Ideas

David and Cordelia happily married

I’m trying ahead to sharing the skilled wedding ceremony photographs with you and hope that you simply loved these candid gothic wedding ceremony photographs. Dave and I are so completely satisfied! I’m grateful that we have been capable of have a marriage that was significant to us with killer outfits that we will rewear.

I hope you loved this peek into our gothic wedding ceremony and that it evokes you to plan your subsequent occasion in a means that’s significant to you!


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